Remaining Neutral

One thing that I have learned is that I am very much a people pleaser. I am someone who wants to be friends with everyone and cannot stand when there is conflict. As an adult, I have learned that being friends with everyone is something that was mainly applicable in elementary school. I am not saying that we cannot be friends with everyone, but our friendships are going to look differently. For instance, say I am friends with one person because we both love sports. Then, I could be friends with another person who hates sports, but we both love to read. Obviously, I am not going to invite my sport-loving friend to come and hang out with my book-loving friend and I. Growing up, being friends with everyone meant that I not only had to be friends with everyone, but they also had to be friends with one another. This is something that is not going to happen. In some cases, we may even find ourselves in friendships with people who do not like one another. That is where remaining neutral comes in. Rather than trying to fix everything and being "two-faced", we can remain neutral and still be friends with both of them. Rather than trying to please everyone, I can remain neutral and be an honest friend.