Changing Roles

The roles that we play in our families growing up are sometimes unhealthy, but necessary. Even though the roles were beneficial and served us well when we were younger, we don't have to stay with those roles throughout our lives. We can choose to deviate from them. We can choose to take on a new role, maybe one that is more healthy. For example, there is no way that I can play the same role now that I did when I was little. I live over 8 hours away from home. Trying to keep the same role as when I was 12 is not going to work. I have to evaluate what my new role is going to be, then commit to the change. Obviously, there are going to be people who are not happy with the way that we change or the new roles that we decide to take on, but there are going to be those individuals who are accepting and encouraging of our decision. Instead of being afraid of the negative reaction from those around me, I am going to take on the idea of change and work towards figuring out what role would be best for me to take on. I no longer need to worry about not being adequate or not filling my role properly. If something is not reasonable or is impossible, I am not going to be able to be the best person that I can be. Taking on a new role or redefining what our role isn't easy, but sometimes is necessary.