Stop Being Passive!

Over and over again I have to remind myself to stop being passive in certain situations. Conflict is something that I try to avoid at all costs. Rather than confront someone or bring up an issue that could lead to a conflict, I choose to ignore it or personally take the blame for anything that goes wrong. I know where a lot of these behaviors stem from, but it wouldn't do me any good to dwell on the things that I cannot control. Rather than focus on the negatives that have led to these behaviors, I can choose to work on myself and be more aware of the situations that I allow these things to happen in. Most likely, confronting the person or bringing something up is going to be more beneficial than me holding it inside. The situation may not even be a big deal, and the person's reaction is so much better than I anticipated. But, the steps leading up to confrontation are what's the most difficult. Thinking about confrontation makes me sick to my stomach at times. One of my biggest fears is having to face different situations each day that require these sorts of confrontations. Rather than being afraid and allowing my fear to control me, I can choose to stand up for myself rather than being passive. Instead of taking the blame for things, I can look at a situation honestly and determine for myself what needs to be done.